Yeah, obviously I have figured out the prob with my blog!! so frustrating when your computer messes up and you're not smart enuf to fix it.
I haven't posted for awhile due to some issues that I have been dealing with in regards to my son. I want to tell you all about it, but am fearful that this other family involved will somehow see this post and get me fired over breaching confidentiality...I know it's a stretch, but it could happen. So I will try to be as vague as possible and leave out any real confidential info....
I must start out with some background info of my son, hope it doesn't come off as bragging, but if it does then oh well its a mother's right to brag isn't it? My son is very good looking (if I do say so myself), popular, smart, good student, excellent athlete, awesome friend and too funny for words sometimes, he is also very sensitive (he would kill me if he read this). Preface this with NEVER being in trouble at school(except for kindergarten when he stood up on the bus).
Well flashback with me to last year(this would be sixth grade for my son) and a new student comes to school. My son knows him through his cousin and they seem to get along fine. Next thing I know, the mom of new student( known hereafter as NS) is at the school accusing my son of bullying and racial slurs against her son. As a mom I am horrified at the possibility of my son being a bully, little lone being a racist (my son is part Native American, but looks white). I confront my son and he denies everything, he says he and NS never even see ea other at recess b/c my son plays bball and NS doesn't. Wanting more info I ask NS's relative what he knew of the situation and he said my son had no involvement. NS's mom would not let it drop(must leave out the details) even though I told her what her relative had said. So in my anger I drove to her house to confront her and her son about the truth. We get into a screaming match while our sons sat in our cars. She finally allows me to talk to NS and he said he didn't tell his mom that about my son, what he told her was "So and so said that____(my son) was calling him names. Ohmigosh!!!!! I was so mad, after all of this drama, NS admits to not hearing/seeing my son do anything, but so and so said whatever!!!! ARGGHHH!
Flash forward to 12 days ago, NS confronts my son in hallway telling him what a B**CH I was and to keep my F' ing mouth shut (because of something that involved NS and me having to do my job) And my son asked him what he was talking about and NS told him what had happened and continued to talk bad about me. My son walked away and his friend met him on the stairs and asked who he was yelling at (because my son thought he had to defend me) and he told his friend who it was and why he was yelling at him. All of this happens with me being out of town at a church retreat, by the way.
My son and his friends went to the pow wow the next night and there was a confrontation between my son's friend and NS and NS's parents. Cops became involved, people are being charged with assault. My son was questioned by the police and was found to be innocent of ANYTHING. But NS's mom called me saying my son was 1)drunk 2) getting a gang together to beat up her son at the pow wow 3) was using racial slurs against her son AGAIN and cussing uncontrollably!! Basically everything that transpired was my son's fault, in her opinion. I questioned my son and all his friends, including NS's relative and they all told the same story my son did (which they all told to the police) but has sooo different than NS's mom. But NS's mom would have me to believe that my son goes around school getting different people to pick on and "terrorize" her son daily. She told me the FBI were called because this is a hate crime!!!! unlike our confrontation before, I have not yelled, I have not screamed, not cussed, or judged. I have listened to her incessant phone calls about so and so is now saying ______ and your son is the cause of it and her son is perfect! There is so much more involved here but this post is too long already.
People, my patience is wearing thin, my resolve is weakening and what I WANT to do is tell her where to go and what to do when she gets there. But I am not going to do that! I am not the person I was a year ago or even 6 months ago. I just need prayers of strength and good energy sent my way before I turn back into psycho mom and have to flee the state...hee hee just joking!
I haven't posted for awhile due to some issues that I have been dealing with in regards to my son. I want to tell you all about it, but am fearful that this other family involved will somehow see this post and get me fired over breaching confidentiality...I know it's a stretch, but it could happen. So I will try to be as vague as possible and leave out any real confidential info....
I must start out with some background info of my son, hope it doesn't come off as bragging, but if it does then oh well its a mother's right to brag isn't it? My son is very good looking (if I do say so myself), popular, smart, good student, excellent athlete, awesome friend and too funny for words sometimes, he is also very sensitive (he would kill me if he read this). Preface this with NEVER being in trouble at school(except for kindergarten when he stood up on the bus).
Well flashback with me to last year(this would be sixth grade for my son) and a new student comes to school. My son knows him through his cousin and they seem to get along fine. Next thing I know, the mom of new student( known hereafter as NS) is at the school accusing my son of bullying and racial slurs against her son. As a mom I am horrified at the possibility of my son being a bully, little lone being a racist (my son is part Native American, but looks white). I confront my son and he denies everything, he says he and NS never even see ea other at recess b/c my son plays bball and NS doesn't. Wanting more info I ask NS's relative what he knew of the situation and he said my son had no involvement. NS's mom would not let it drop(must leave out the details) even though I told her what her relative had said. So in my anger I drove to her house to confront her and her son about the truth. We get into a screaming match while our sons sat in our cars. She finally allows me to talk to NS and he said he didn't tell his mom that about my son, what he told her was "So and so said that____(my son) was calling him names. Ohmigosh!!!!! I was so mad, after all of this drama, NS admits to not hearing/seeing my son do anything, but so and so said whatever!!!! ARGGHHH!
Flash forward to 12 days ago, NS confronts my son in hallway telling him what a B**CH I was and to keep my F' ing mouth shut (because of something that involved NS and me having to do my job) And my son asked him what he was talking about and NS told him what had happened and continued to talk bad about me. My son walked away and his friend met him on the stairs and asked who he was yelling at (because my son thought he had to defend me) and he told his friend who it was and why he was yelling at him. All of this happens with me being out of town at a church retreat, by the way.
My son and his friends went to the pow wow the next night and there was a confrontation between my son's friend and NS and NS's parents. Cops became involved, people are being charged with assault. My son was questioned by the police and was found to be innocent of ANYTHING. But NS's mom called me saying my son was 1)drunk 2) getting a gang together to beat up her son at the pow wow 3) was using racial slurs against her son AGAIN and cussing uncontrollably!! Basically everything that transpired was my son's fault, in her opinion. I questioned my son and all his friends, including NS's relative and they all told the same story my son did (which they all told to the police) but has sooo different than NS's mom. But NS's mom would have me to believe that my son goes around school getting different people to pick on and "terrorize" her son daily. She told me the FBI were called because this is a hate crime!!!! unlike our confrontation before, I have not yelled, I have not screamed, not cussed, or judged. I have listened to her incessant phone calls about so and so is now saying ______ and your son is the cause of it and her son is perfect! There is so much more involved here but this post is too long already.
People, my patience is wearing thin, my resolve is weakening and what I WANT to do is tell her where to go and what to do when she gets there. But I am not going to do that! I am not the person I was a year ago or even 6 months ago. I just need prayers of strength and good energy sent my way before I turn back into psycho mom and have to flee the state...hee hee just joking!
Having delt with my share of crazy parents, my heart goes out to you.
I hope you find the strength to not let her get to you.
Posted by
~A~ |
5:27 PM
The most important thing you said in all of this was "I believe my son - I support my son - and I love my son" this is what he will remember for the rest of his life! Your doing a GR8 job keeping your temper in control and I support you - vent all you need to us your cyber friends.
BTW what do you mean your son stood up on a bus - oh my gosh maybe that's how lives of crime start! If that is the worse he's done that is great. I hate that every fight between kids a mom somewhere has to get involved dragging other mom's into it (and the police) the kids would probably have ironed it out on their own if Physco Mom had stayed out of it.
Posted by
OMH |
7:40 AM
Thank you all for all of your words of support. It means the world to me!
Posted by
shawnak |
9:39 AM
I wrote most of what I had to say in my email. But just know that Q has the greatest mother ever, and I love you.
Posted by
Kodi |
9:57 PM